Insecurity in a Leader - How to spot it & avoid it Insecurity in a Leader - How to spot it & avoid it
As our company grows, people in the company go one of two ways. They catch the momentum of the company growth and grow with it, or they get insecure and go the other way. They become negative, insecure and start tearing down what others have worked so hard to built.
Today, we will discuss insecurity in a leader. How to spot it and how to avoid
it. In actually, many people don’t
even know they are going down that road until they get there.
(in Leadership class we went through the example of a farmer and planting crops in his field)
Discussion questions:
- Achieving the Goal – It is not about the individual - what was the Goal of the farmer? Was it met? Was there a success?
- The farmer was focused on the field? The first set of workers were focused on themselves, not the overall goal of the farmer or employer. Have you ever seen that happen in a company you worked for?
- People at the end were as important as the one’s that started the day – without them the field would have not bee completed? How can we relate that to Khidmah? What about the original 5 employees vs. the latest 5 employees to join Khidmah?
- You don’t get more just because you are older or been around longer. (entitlement issue - let's discuss this)
- The rest of the story – if the owner of the field did not get paid if he did not harvest the full field – therefore the only way the first people were paid is because the last people helped complete the job.
Spotting Negative or Insecurity in Your Behavior
To be honest, personal insecurity is fairly easy to spot in our behavior. We fail to see it merely because we ignore it. We pretend it isn't there by defending ourselves and diverting the focus on to something else.
- COMPARISON –You begin to compare yourself to others.
- COMPENSATION –You feel like a victim and must compensate for your inferiority.
- COMPETITION –You drift into self-centered patterns, trying to out-perform others.
- COMPULSION –You are driven to gain others' approval; you are a people-pleaser.
- CONDEMNATION –You demonstrate a judgmental attitude of yourself or others.
- CONTROL – In order to validate your own worth, you feel you must take charge.
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Winning
By Competitiveness |
Winning by
Cooperation |
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Look at other as Enemies |
Look at other as friends |
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Concentrate on Yourself |
Concentrate on Others |
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Become suspicious of others |
Become supportive of others |
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Win only if you are good |
Win if you or others are good |
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Winning determined by your skills |
Winning determined by the skills of many |

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